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How to Support a Friend

Practical tips for helping someone you care about who may be experiencing abuse.

A simple tool for finding the right words

It can be hard to know what to say. Our Supportive Statement Generator can help you craft a caring message. You provide the context, and our AI assistant will suggest a kind and encouraging note you can share.

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Listen Without Judgment

Let them know you're a safe person to talk to. Avoid giving advice right away. Just listen and validate their feelings by saying things like, 'That sounds incredibly difficult,' or 'I believe you.'

Focus on Their Safety

Gently ask if they feel safe. You can ask, 'Are you worried about your safety?' Help them think about a safety plan, but don't pressure them. You can point them to resources like the ones in this app.

Respect Their Decisions

Leaving an abusive relationship is complex and dangerous. Respect their timeline and their choices, even if you don't understand them. Your role is to support, not to control.

Offer Specific, Practical Help

Instead of saying 'Let me know if you need anything,' offer concrete help. For example: 'Can I watch your kids on Tuesday?' or 'I can help you look up local resources.'

Know Your Limits and Take Care of Yourself

Supporting a friend in this situation can be emotionally draining. It's okay to have your own boundaries. Make sure you have your own support system to talk to.